Defining love…that can be difficult to put in words and yet we can feel it throughout our whole body. Wikipedia says “love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Love may describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.”
How do you define love? Does your definition of love change after you lose someone close to you?
My definition really remains the same in regards of your significant other. It’s loving someone with their good qualities and ones that might not be so favorable. We continue to love them even after mistakes have been made. I believe there is some conscious decision in loving someone, but there is some unconscious decision that happens when we fall in love.
Before my husband died, I knew how much I loved him. The part that I did not know was how much it would hurt when he was gone. The pain that consumes your body is almost unbearable. It permeates through your body and mine started in my heart when I received the news. The aching that came after just to be able to see him again was excruciating.
It’s amazing to me how one emotion can remain even as you have anger, sadness, frustration and a whole slew of other emotions. I believe that meeting Mike made me love more freely. He taught me what love felt like and what it felt to lose it. I am now more vocal about my feelings.
I am able to love again. I love myself, my children, family, friends and another man. There is a saying that goes something like love is in the air…when there is love there is an energy that absorbs you and the people close to you. That’s what I believe the saying means. That you can almost smell it when you walk in the room, you can definitely feel it drench you like a spring afternoon rainfall…creating the fresh undisguisable smell.
What is important to me is to speak my affection and express my love. I try to find the words to tell my feelings and at will speak those words.