Finding words for love…

hands in heart shape with the sunset filtering through the heartDefining love…that can be difficult to put in words and yet we can feel it throughout our whole body.  Wikipedia says “love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love is also said to be a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Love may describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.”

How do you define love?  Does your definition of love change after you lose someone close to you?

My definition really remains the same in regards of your significant other.  It’s loving someone with their good qualities and ones that might not be so favorable.  We continue to love them even after mistakes have been made.  I believe there is some conscious decision in loving someone, but there is some unconscious decision that happens when we fall in love.

Before my husband died, I knew how much I loved him.  The part that I did not know was how much it would hurt when he was gone.  The pain that consumes your body is almost unbearable.  It permeates through your body and mine started in my heart when I received the news.  The aching that came after just to be able to see him again was excruciating.

It’s amazing to me how one emotion can remain even as you have anger, sadness, frustration and a whole slew of other emotions. I believe that meeting Mike made me love more freely.  He taught me what love felt like and what it felt to lose it.  I am now more vocal about my feelings.

clouds showing rainI am able to love again.  I love myself, my children, family, friends and another man.  There is a saying that goes something like love is in the air…when there is love there is an energy that absorbs you and the people close to you.  That’s what I believe the saying means.  That you can almost smell it when you walk in the room, you can definitely feel it drench you like a spring afternoon rainfall…creating the fresh undisguisable smell.

What is important to me is to speak my affection and express my love.  I try to find the words to tell my feelings and at will speak those words.


7 thoughts on “Finding words for love…

  1. Love is all consuming. I find it in the quiet hours. I do not think it changes after losing a spouse. I think we merely appreciate it in a light we never bothered to shine upon it before.

  2. “It’s amazing to me how one emotion can remain even as you have anger, sadness, frustration and a whole slew of other emotions.”

    Yes! This is something that grief has taught me. We can feel seemingly opposite emotions at the same time. We can be joyful during a happy occasion and also sad for what and who was lost. Feeling the whole range of emotions and accepting them all is so much better than the either/or thinking that says we have to choose. Here’s to “Yes, and…”

  3. Love is one of the hardest words to define because it means different things to different people in different situations. Despite this, you have captured it beautifully. Thank you.

  4. What losing a spouse, rebuilding, and falling in love again shows us is that our attachments are not mutually exclusive. We don’t have to give up one to have the other, and each is utterly unique.

  5. We just need more words for love! I mean, we have tons of words for wine.
    Then again, I love wine, so maybe things are just as they should be?

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